There are times in life when we are not aware of the things people around us see. Have you ever had someone close to you at work ask, “Hey, how are you doing?” Sometimes they may say it differently than they normally would. They may even stop you on your way somewhere or invite you in their office. If this happens to you, don’t just brush it off. Instead, find out what others are seeing. It’s important to realize how change induces stress. The lord you are the more rigid you will likely be towards change.
1) The many variables of life influence us daily. we are not impermeable or omnipotent. Things will get under our skin and we often don’t realize how it’s working its way into everything we do. the explanation for this is very simple. We try to compartmentalize things thinking we can move ahead, but sometimes the bin is overflowing and things move from our subconscious and into our ability to focus, out mood, or performance.
2) Remember that all change can induce stress! imagine you just won $10 million! What would you do with people who find out your number and call asking for financial help? Where will you invest it? How will you keep your kids from spending it all? How will you keep your family from fighting over it? How will the news influence your friends? Think everything will stay the same? I doubt it and it’s good news, right? So remember that even the greatest blessings can cause stress, anxiety, fear and worry.
3) We’re not always aware of what’s showing in the mirror. Ever look at yourself in the mirror and *think* that you made sure everything was perfect and in place? There was no missed facial hair during the morning shave. Your belt went through every loop of your pants perfectly. Or how about knowing that your shoes are from the same pair? Well, I definitely remember missing these signs and more! That goes to show that we’re often only looking at around 60% of what’s there. You may think you’re catching on to a higher amount of things than I am. Great! I applaud you! However, you’re still missing something at times. More than likely, your supervisor isn’t and they can sometimes be helpful in creating awareness about the things you have missed.
4) People care for you. A good employer is going to bring things to your attention so you can address the issue and continue being successful at work. This employer will offer the opportunity to listen to you and determine how they can help you. They will offer you resources and mentor-ship. They’ll want to know that they aren’t the source of the trouble and definitely how they can be part of the solution. If you’re working for a good employer, sit down and hear what they have to say.
5) The people you work with know you well. Let’s face it. You’re with these people for many hours weekly and you often share about yourself and your life. These people often become close supporters and even friends. They’re going to get to know you well and recognize when something is off. Whenever we are going through a difficult time in our lives, it’s important to let the people closest to us at work in enough so they can share what they see. Spending five minutes over a cup of coffee may open your eyes to something you need to address that perhaps you’ve put off or minimized.
The workplace is often not thought of as a nurturing and safe place for us, but it often really is. For those of us who do work for an organization that cares about you holistically and is open to helping explore ways for you to be a successful person, then it may not be of a surprise that your employer and colleagues may be key in helping us understand how changes in life may affect us. It’s important to find those trustworthy and quality people who can clue you in on whatever everyone else sees. Once you face reality, you can empower yourself by doing something about the issue. Is it a matter of using resources provided by your Employee Assistance Program (EAP)? Is it a matter of addressing certain issues at home with your significant other? Need to go see the doctor? All of these issues can come up at work in one way or another.
Do you know what services are available at your company’s EAP? Do yourself a favor and investigate! You may be surprise by the extent of services available to you. Your employer pays for these services to help make you the best you can be, so take advantage of them. There are other organizations that don’t invest in their employees that way.